7 ways to Make People Instantly Like You

Everyone wants to be liked, even the people who swear they don't care. Yet many people go through life, or at least part of their lives, feeling as if people do not like them. This article will discuss many things to help you but will not guarantee you a friend.

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Be funny, but don't act like a complete idiot. The class clown is usually a pretty popular kid, as is the prankster who's always making people laugh. Being genuinely funny is a hard thing to do, but it's an important part of getting other people to like you. Act funny and go with the joke the other person says. And don't constantly joke around or do pranks or the other person will get annoyed, bored, or frustrated with the pranks you are doing.

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Remember one rule: People are interested in themselves. The first step of getting people to like you is simple. All you have to do is be interested in them. Talk to people about themselves. Lead the conversation, making sure that it stays about them and they believe that they're the one in charge.

• Find out what they're interested in and seek to learn more. For example, you're talking with someone and they drop the hint that they went rock-climbing over the weekend.
  
  
  • Ask the person more questions about this hobby: "How did you get started rock-climbing?" or "What do you like about rock-climbing?" or "Where is the coolest place you've ever gone rock-climbing?"
• These questions will lead to answers, and you can ask more questions or develop a conversation based on that. Regardless, the other person will be impressed that you're so interested in them, and glad that they get to talk about something they actually care about.

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Talk about positive things. By and large, people want to be happy more than sad, so positive things are happier to talk about than negative things. Talking about negative things or complaining too much can put the person you're talking to in an uncomfortable position and sometimes leads the conversation astray. Instead, focus on sharing the happy or positive aspects of your life for other people to enjoy or relate to.

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Pay attention to body language. Your body language is like another you screaming signals that other people pick up on without ever really noticing. A lot of our body language happens without us even knowing about it — it's subconscious. Training your body to recognize the body language it gives off is an important part of being likable.

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Look like a friendly and attractive person. This does not mean you have to have to dress in the same way as everyone else does. You just need to look open, honest, natural, friendly, outgoing and clean. This is important because most people make a judgment about someone that they meet for the first time within the first thirty seconds of meeting them.

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Make your conversation partner comfortable. This all depends on your partner's definition of "comfortable," but a lot of things apply here. Put in the extra effort to make the other person feel special. Everyone wants to feel special when they're being talked to, so keep that in mind.

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Be energetic and enthusiastic. You know what works well about you and what doesn't. Whatever you do, be energetic and enthusiastic. Let your voice, your body, and your confidence show that.

• Give a lively and pleasant tone to your voice. Moderate the pitch in your voice so that it has a lot of energy and emotion. (Radio DJs do this well, although it's probably not a great idea to sound exactly like a radio DJ.)
  
  
  • Try not to stammer or say too many "Ahs" or "Ums". It's a sign of nervousness. If you find yourself stammering a lot, slow your speech down. Rehearse the gist of what you're going to say in your head before you say it.
  • Men can try to lower their voices if it's natural. Studies have shown that men with lower voices attract more sexual partners.^[2] Don't, however, try to do this if it doesn't feel right. It's much better to keep your voice calm and relaxed than it is to change it to something it's not.
• Just be yourself. Finally, the golden rule of making people like you. You can modify things about you, but you can't change your personality. You are who you are. And that's great, because that person is special in ways that no other person is, and so are you.